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my wife, Pam is in the hospital since last nite…serious abdominal cramping getting worse since thanksgiving. small bowel blockage. after 3 ct scans( new triple scan, lightning speed ct), the docs(real oncologists and GI specialists) are 90% sure its a tumor.. the primary one which now extends from left 2 right kidney, infiltrating aorta and vena cava, and a lot of the rest of the abdomen. they say ostomy, if even that is possible. she is sooo washed out, from the pain, from not eating much, not eliminating much, from being on narcotics most of the year, from the mag citrate, and barium and constant testing……and of course the cancer itself.  in two weeks she went from feeling ok to this. i hate this damn disease. there is nothing i can do anymore.  it has taken my life, in the process of taking hers. life now is all about delaying death, and that sucks. it aint fair, it aint right, and i’m pissed off.  last night, for the first time alone in god knows how long, i really let go and just cried for hours. i know the coming days will be tearful as well. Pam and I are gonna be doing a whole lot of crying together…something long overdue for tough people like us. ya know tho, i have never felt closer to her than at this time. and ive never felt closer to God.  i would have crumbled under the weight of this long ago had it it not been for what little faith i have, and what great love God reveals in times like this. i am honored, for i am going to get to walk Pam to the gates of heaven, and she is going to beat me in! anyway, i hope yall dont mind me dumping this emotional load on ya…sorry if i ramble. peace mark-h

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – my wife, Pam is in the hospital since last nite…serious abdominal cramping getting worse since thanksgiving. small bowel blockage. after 3 ct scans( new triple scan, lightning speed ct), the docs(real oncologists and GI specialists) are 90% sure its a tumor.. the primary one which now extends from left 2 right kidney, infiltrating aorta and vena cava, and a lot of the rest of the abdomen. they say ostomy, if even that is possible. she is sooo washed out, from the pain, from not eating much, not eliminating much, from being on narcotics most of the year, from the mag citrate, and barium and constant testing……and of course the cancer itself.  in two weeks she went from feeling ok to this. i hate this damn disease. there is nothing i can do anymore.  it has taken my life, in the process of taking hers. life now is all about delaying death, and that sucks. it aint fair, it aint right, and i’m pissed off.  last night, for the first time alone in god knows how long, i really let go and just cried for hours. i know the coming days will be tearful as well. Pam and I are gonna be doing a whole lot of crying together…something long overdue for tough people like us. ya know tho, i have never felt closer to her than at this time. and ive never felt closer to God.  i would have crumbled under the weight of this long ago had it it not been for what little faith i have, and what great love God reveals in times like this. i am honored, for i am going to get to walk Pam to the gates of heaven, and she is going to beat me in! anyway, i hope yall dont mind me dumping this emotional load on ya…sorry if i ramble. peace mark-

Peace to you too Mark.  I pray for you both, and hoping that Pam get some relief soon from her pain. Love Eve

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    snip his tale of woe anyway, i hope yall dont mind me dumping this emotional load on ya…sorry if i ramble. peace mark-h

    God is the only one who understands all this Mark; we are all in His hands like so much putty to do what He wants….. Unfortunately we all know just how you feel.     CAT

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my wife, Pam is in the hospital since last nite…serious abdominal cramping

Mark, Our deepest, heartfelt sympathy goes to you and your beloved wife. There is nothing to be said to ease your pain. Eric Eric Unofficial C8 Homepage http://www.ngc1514.com

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my wife, Pam is in the hospital since last nite…serious abdominal cramping getting worse since thanksgiving. small bowel blockage. after 3 ct scans( new triple scan, lightning speed ct), the docs(real oncologists and GI specialists) are 90% sure its a tumor.. the primary one which now extends from left 2 right kidney, infiltrating aorta and vena cava, and a lot of the rest of the abdomen. they say ostomy, if even that is possible.

I’m sorry, Mark, and hope they can at least do something to relieve Pam’s pain. she is sooo washed out, from the pain, from not eating much, not eliminating much, from being on narcotics most of the year, from the mag citrate, and barium and constant testing……and of course the cancer itself.  in two weeks she went from feeling ok to this. i hate this damn disease. there is nothing i can do anymore.  it has taken my life, in the process of taking hers. life now is all about delaying death, and that sucks. it aint fair, it aint right, and i’m pissed off.  last night, for the first time alone in god knows how long, i really let go and just cried for hours. i know the coming days will be tearful as well. Pam and I are gonna be doing a whole lot of crying together…something long overdue for tough people like us.

Crying can be very cathartic and cleansing. It’s hard to be brave and positive all the time, and okay to break down. ya know tho, i have never felt closer to her than at this time. and ive never felt closer to God.  i would have crumbled under the weight of this long ago had it it not been for what little faith i have, and what great love God reveals in times like this. i am honored, for i am going to get to walk Pam to the gates of heaven, and she is going to beat me in! anyway, i hope yall dont mind me dumping this emotional load on ya…sorry if i ramble.

This is what the group is for. Feel free to unload any time you like. Michele

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my wife, Pam is in the hospital since last nite…serious abdominal cramping getting worse since thanksgiving. small bowel blockage. after 3 ct scans( new triple scan, lightning speed ct), the docs(real oncologists and GI specialists) are 90% sure its a tumor.. the primary one which now extends from left 2 right kidney, infiltrating aorta and vena cava, and a lot of the rest of the abdomen. they say ostomy, if even that is possible. she is sooo washed out, from the pain, from not eating much, not eliminating much, from being on narcotics most of the year, from the mag citrate, and barium and constant testing……and of course the cancer itself.  in two weeks she went from feeling ok to this.

I’m so sorry to hear of your wife’s health problems, and of her pain up until now. There is a lot that can be done for cancer patients, when the pain is aggressivly treated.   Make sure that you intercede on her behalf if necessary to make sure the medical team is making her as comfortable as possible.  There is no award they give out in heaven for suffering through pain . Be there for her, as it sounds like you will be.  Your love and support will mean more to her than you know now.  I lost my wife three months ago after an eight-month struggle against lung cancer.  Let me know if I can be of any help.                                               thomas.

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