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My darling wife and soul mate failed in her 15 month long battle with colon cancer on 15th June. She faced the end with great courage and fortitude, as usual, showing more concern for others around her than for herself.

Frank, I’m sorry that you lost your wife. This must be so hard. I’m glad that she received good care, and that you were able to be by her side. It sounds like she had a very loving, supportive husband in you. Michele

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My darling wife and soul mate failed in her 15 month long battle with colon cancer on 15th June. She faced the end with great courage and fortitude, as usual, showing more concern for others around her than for herself. Since she was first diagnosed in February 2001 she endured four sessions of major abdominal surgery and two regimes of chemotherapy (12 weekly treatments with 5FU and 1 treatment with oxaliplatin, neither of which she tolerated at all well) interspersed within the operations. I must say that the ministrations provided by the Nuffield hospital here in Derby (England) could not have been better – the care, concern and consideration shown both to my wife and to me by the surgical, medical, nursing and auxillary staff was without compare – and the fact that I was able to spend the last month of her life with her in hospital will be a source of gratitude to me for the rest of my life. After all, apart from the necessity of work, we have not been apart since we got married 24 years ago. My God, I am going to miss her. One of the nurses is shortly going to take up a post in Seattle (US). Believe me – that is our loss and Seattle’s gain. I am sorry to burden you all with my sorrows, but I do feel better for having written this. Thank you all and be well. May your God be with you – Kindest regards and best wishes to all, Frank

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My darling wife and soul mate failed in her 15 month long battle with colon cancer on 15th June. She faced the end with great courage and fortitude, as usual, showing more concern for others around her than for herself. Since she was first diagnosed in February 2001 she endured four sessions of major abdominal surgery and two regimes of chemotherapy (12 weekly treatments with 5FU and 1 treatment with oxaliplatin, neither of which she tolerated at all well) interspersed within the operations. I must say that the ministrations provided by the Nuffield hospital here in Derby (England) could not have been better – the care, concern and consideration shown both to my wife and to me by the surgical, medical, nursing and auxillary staff was without compare – and the fact that I was able to spend the last month of her life with her in hospital will be a source of gratitude to me for the rest of my life. After all, apart from the necessity of work, we have not been apart since we got married 24 years ago. My God, I am going to miss her. One of the nurses is shortly going to take up a post in Seattle (US). Believe me – that is our loss and Seattle’s gain. I am sorry to burden you all with my sorrows, but I do feel better for having written this. Thank you all and be well. May your God be with you – Kindest regards and best wishes to all, Frank

Frank, I’m so sorry, but I’m glad you saw some goodness in the "system" which so often gets so much blame.

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Thank you all for your kind wishes. The help and support I have received and continue to get from you all, friends and family alike gladdens my heart in that, in these troubled times,  people can spare a thought for those going through the purgatory of grief. I thank you all again from the bottom of my heart. Kindest regards, Frank

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Frank, I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife.  Please accept my deepest sympathies. …lisa

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I never cease to be amazed at the courage of people like your wife. God bless you both MIKE

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My deepest sympathy Frank.  Kathy J – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My darling wife and soul mate failed in her 15 month long battle with colon cancer on 15th June.

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Frank So sorry to hear about your loss.  Deepest sympathy to you and your family. God bless. Eve

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Frank, I am so sorery for your loss. Jean

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My darling wife and soul mate failed in her 15 month long battle with colon cancer on 15th June. She faced the end with great courage and fortitude, as usual, showing more concern for others around her than for herself. Since she was first diagnosed in February 2001 she endured four sessions of major abdominal surgery and two regimes of chemotherapy (12 weekly treatments with 5FU and 1 treatment with oxaliplatin, neither of which she tolerated at all well) interspersed within the operations. I must say that the ministrations provided by the Nuffield hospital here in Derby (England) could not have been better – the care, concern and consideration shown both to my wife and to me by the surgical, medical, nursing and auxillary staff was without compare – and the fact that I was able to spend the last month of her life with her in hospital will be a source of gratitude to me for the rest of my life. After all, apart from the necessity of work, we have not been apart since we got married 24 years ago. My God, I am going to miss her. One of the nurses is shortly going to take up a post in Seattle (US). Believe me – that is our loss and Seattle’s gain. I am sorry to burden you all with my sorrows, but I do feel better for having written this. Thank you all and be well. May your God be with you – Kindest regards and best wishes to all, Frank

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