Talk Cancer

Question:

Hello … O.k. here are my thoughts as an animal lover….. I too have been in the position of having to put my best friend "my dog" to sleep due to throat cancer.  It was awful.  Sure I could have kept her alive and put her thru surgery but only to give her a few extra weeks with me.  That would have been selfish !!!

Tuffy was diagnosed with a type of cancer on the skin about six months ago. It worsened … he had surgery to have the lumps removed and we were all hopeful. Two months later the lumps came back. We took him back to the Vet and found out he now had two types of cancer. One on the outside, and one running through his blood. We were heart broken. Our little friend was dying. Our last visit at the vet was a confimation of what we already knew … he only had a month and a half to live. He is now going on two months .. so we have been lucky. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I had to tell my self that there is the "QUALITY" of life and the "QUANITY" of life .She had given me SO much and as much as it hurt me to let her go, her quality of life was not there for HER.  I had to have her put to sleep. She was in pain and suffering.  What ever you do, don’t let your best friend suffer as your best friend would NOT want you to do that to him or her.  Be strong get ready to cry and have her put to sleep and stay in the room with the dog. Reason being they are with strangers on there last minutes and ths isn’t what they want.  They want to be with you and know you are there.  I can go into more detail about this stuff if need be, but you can e-mail me seperately from this as to how it is humanly done.  PLEASE DON’T LET YOUR DOG SUFFER.  LET HIM/HER GO TO DOGGY HEAVEN.

There is no way we would let that little guy suffer. Sunday was the first day he showed signs of pain. He had a hard time walking … and stayed on the couch most of the day. We gave him a pain pill, and he seemed more content. I don’t think it’s time right now … he’s not ready, and neither are we. It will be soon … within the week I’m sure … but not yet. I don’t feel I’m being selfish … I just have to make sure. He enjoys being alive .. I can see it in his eyes. We will know when the time is right. Spiderweb

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Thank you Daisy, It’s hard … and I did write to you. Your such a good friend. I’m at a loss of words …. will write more later … Love ya, Spiderweb

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Deb, I’m sorry to hear about Tuffy, pets are members of family, Busters dog Rusty died a few months ago so I know what you are going through.  I know it must be a very tough decision to make to let him go.  If you need to talk I’m here all day.  As far as the bible thumpers go, I’m just gonna have a good time with ‘em, what else can ya do?  I promise to not let them get to me Daisy My dog is dying of cancer and we are almost to the point of having to make a decision. I don’t think I’m going to make it through that so well … he’s my little boy. Sunday he took a turn for the worse … and we have been giving him pain pills ever since. Just looking for a hand to hold while going through this … I know there isn’t anything anyone can do. Unless of course there is a miracle cure out there that I’m not aware of. In the past he would always comfort me when I would cry. If he would hear one little whimper out of me he would come and jump on my lap … and look at me with his big brown eyes. Now with him feeling so weak … I don’t want to cry in front of him or where he can hear me because he would try and come to me … and I know he’s hurting. So … I don’t cry unless I’m away from him. Feeling very blue … and sad … don’t want to lose my little friend. Spiderweb

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Thank you Zimm …. I tell him I love him every day. I call him my little "sunshine". And your right … I think he understands more than I do about all of this. Thanks again, Spiderweb

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Your dog is your friend and you love him.  You don’t want him to be in pain and there isn’t anything you can do to keep him from dying.  You can stop his pain though.  He needs you to be strong for him now.  Remember all the wonderful times you had together.  Smile and tell him you love him.  He understands. Zimm My dog is dying of cancer and we are almost to the point of having to make a decision. I don’t think I’m going to make it through that so well … he’s my little boy. Sunday he took a turn for the worse … and we have been giving him pain pills ever since. Just looking for a hand to hold while going through this … I know there isn’t anything anyone can do. Unless of course there is a miracle cure out there that I’m not aware of. In the past he would always comfort me when I would cry. If he would hear one little whimper out of me he would come and jump on my lap … and look at me with his big brown eyes. Now with him feeling so weak … I don’t want to cry in front of him or where he can hear me because he would try and come to me … and I know he’s hurting. So … I don’t cry unless I’m away from him. Feeling very blue … and sad … don’t want to lose my little friend. Spiderweb

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Ahhh, Spiderweb… may you always have wonderful memories of your beloved Tuffy and know that many of us understand that your tears for Tuffy are tears of love…  Our pets are often more than just friends and family members… and, I know Tuffy has been a great companion to you with his unconditional love and compassion… Remember, you have also been his friend and his family…  and surely Tuffy knows your love. I am saddened for you at this time — may you be comforted with your memories. Sandy – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My dog is dying of cancer and we are almost to the point of having to make a decision. I don’t think I’m going to make it through that so well … he’s my little boy. Sunday he took a turn for the worse … and we have been giving him pain pills ever since. Just looking for a hand to hold while going through this … I know there isn’t anything anyone can do. Unless of course there is a miracle cure out there that I’m not aware of. In the past he would always comfort me when I would cry. If he would hear one little whimper out of me he would come and jump on my lap … and look at me with his big brown eyes. Now with him feeling so weak … I don’t want to cry in front of him or where he can hear me because he would try and come to me … and I know he’s hurting. So … I don’t cry unless I’m away from him. Feeling very blue … and sad … don’t want to lose my little friend. Spiderweb

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I received this article via the internet and it has been of great comfort to me.  I hope it helps you also. DOGS IN HEAVEN? An old man and his dog were walking down this dirt road with fences on both sides, they came to a gate in the fence and looked in, it was nice grassy, woody areas, just what a "huntin" dog and man would like, but, it had a sign saying "no trespassing" so they walked on. They came to a beautiful gate with a person in white robes standing there. "Welcome to Heaven" he said.  The old man was happy and started in with his dog following him. The gatekeeper stopped him.  "Dogs aren’t allowed, I’m sorry but he can’t come with you." "What kind of Heaven won’t allow dogs?  If he can’t come in, then I will stay out with him.  He’s been my faithful companion all his life, I can’t desert him now." "Suit yourself, but I have to warn you, the Devil’s on this road and he’ll try to sweet talk you into his area, he’ll promise you anything, but the dog can’t go there either.  If you won’t leave your dog, you’ll spend Eternity on this road." So the old man and dog went on.  They came to a rundown fence with a gap in it, no gate, just a hole.  Another old man was inside. "S’cuse me Sir, my dog and I are getting mighty tired, mind if we come in and sit in the shade for awhile?" "Of course, there’s some cold water under that tree over there.  Make yourselves comfortable." "You’re sure my dog can come in?  The man down the road said dogs weren’t allowed anywhere." "Would you come in if you had to leave your dog?" "No sir, that’s why I didn’t go to Heaven, he said the dog couldn’t come in.  We’ll be spending Eternity on this road, and a glass of water and some shade would be mighty fine right about now.  But, I won’t come in if my buddy here can’t come too, and that’s final." The man smiled a big smile and said "Welcome to Heaven." "You mean this is Heaven?  Dogs ARE allowed?  How come that fellow down the road said they weren’t?" "That was the Devil and he gets all the people who are willing to give up a life long companion for a comfortable place to stay.  They soon find out their mistake, but then it’s too late. The dogs come here, the fickle people stay there, GOD wouldn’t allow dogs to be banned from Heaven.  After all HE created them to be man’s companion in life, why would He separate them in death?" ~author unkown

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Some years back our cat had cancer.   I was overseas when the ‘day’ came.   But we refused to have her put to sleep.  She was given 6 weeks tops.  She live for almost 6 months.   She hurt.  We hurt.    We all knew that.   Only on her last day did she cry for help.  [I still feel bad that I wasn't there.]   But the kids had her for 4 months after the Vet said she wouldn’t be there. I wish you well…..  - John

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O.k. here are my thoughts as an animal lover….. I too have been in the position of having to put my best friend "my dog" to sleep due to throat cancer.  It was awful.  Sure I could have kept her alive and put her thru surgery but only to give her a few extra weeks with me.  That would have been selfish !!! I had to tell my self that there is the "QUALITY" of life and the "QUANITY" of life .She had given me SO much and as much as it hurt me to let her go, her quality of life was not there for HER.  I had to have her put to sleep.  She was in pain and suffering.  What ever you do, don’t let your best friend suffer as your best friend would NOT want you to do that to him or her.  Be strong get ready to cry and have her put to sleep and stay in the room with the dog. Reason being they are with strangers on there last minutes and ths isn’t what they want.  They want to be with you and know you are there.  I can go into more detail about this stuff if need be, but you can e-mail me seperately from this as to how it is humanly done.  PLEASE DON’T LET YOUR DOG SUFFER.  LET HIM/HER GO TO DOGGY HEAVEN.

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Thank you Lee … The cyber hug was recieved and very welcomed. And thank you for sending the tea remedy .. however, when I posted and made the comment about miracle cure I was being sarcastic. I’m angry … so angry with what’s happening to him. Thanks again Lee … I’m at a loss for words at the moment … but just know that I really appreciate the understanding and the "hugs". Spiderweb

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My dog is dying of cancer and we are almost to the point of having to make a decision. I don’t think I’m going to make it through that so well … he’s my little boy. That’s a hard one.  I’m really sorry for what you are and will be going through. Unless you have been there I don’t think people understand this one. A year after my precious Callie Cat died the vet sent me a card about her vaccinations and it still hurt. Pets are unconditional love and who can’t use more of that in their life? Sunday he took a turn for the worse … and we have been giving him pain pills ever since. Just looking for a hand to hold while going through this … I know there isn’t anything anyone can do. Unless of course there is a miracle cure out there that I’m not aware of. The  only "miracle cure" related to cancer that I have ever heard of is Essiac Tea.  I read about it in our local newspaper several years ago.  Here’s what I copied from the Web:                     The Formula for Essiac The following pages contain the story of my mother’s use of Essiac tea for the treatment of cancer. While her health improved dramatically while making use of Essiac, and I draw my own conclusions from her use of the tea coinciding with her rapid and complete recovery from metastasized cancer, I want to make it clear that I can only say that the material on these pages is commentary, and strictly my own opinion based upon events I’ve witnessed. Essiac is an herbal dietary supplement that showed absolutely no ill side-effects on my mother. You apply this information at your own discretion. The following is, verbatim, the recipe my mother used in preparing her Essiac. Take note that this tea is unfortunately not the most palatable, and those seeking a quick and easy miracle cure may be somewhat disappointed; it is necessary to use this tea for quite some time in order to help insure continued health – though positive results are usually seen within 2-6 weeks, consistent use is of the utmost importance! Suggested use* is a minimum of six months, followed by a preventative dose** of two ounces per week indefinitely. Though Essiac tastes horrible, it is extremely important that the patient keep all of it down! If the majority of the tea is not taken into the body and allowed to stay there, it cannot work its cleansing effects. Ingredients I provide both standard and Latin names here, and I’m afraid that is the best I can do. I am merely a technology student, not a linguist, herbalist or apothecary. You will have to do the research for metric conversion, location and purchase on your own. Also, if you cannot follow the simple directions below (the very ones my mother used), I am sorry, but I do not have the time to answer ten requests a day to explain and/or simplify them.  I’m tired of being asked to define a "rolling boil."